if im too good at a particular video game i might get banned

If you have any specific questions about how I got rid of my online chess addiction, you may as well shoot me a message. I mean, I could go on about this, but those are my initial thoughts.

Hanging out with your friends for instance, is a much better way of spending your time. Generally speaking, playing lots of online chess is one of the LEAST PRODUCTIVE things you can do and nothing that will propel your skill in any area. For me, it is, at least sometimes, to be productive in any kind of way (choose an area of your liking) or to simply relax or hang out with friends. Try finding something that makes you happy when you do it.

This means that you don't need the kick of online chess anymore, or at least that was the case for me. Therefore, I suggest, you approach chess a bit more seriously over the board, so you have successes you can be proud of. It helped me to realise that those imaginary rating points online are not worth anything and that playing at fast time controls does not improve your chess (too much bullet might even harm it). You are probably referring to online chess and I know this problem, because I've suffered from online chess adiction at least a year or so.

If im too good at a particular video game i might get banned